Tentang Inspirasi dan Motivasi

Perempuan adalah jiwa,perempuan harus berdaya,perempuan harus berani punya MIMPI,agar jiwanya tak layu.

-Oppie Andaresta-

"Mempertahankan janji pernikahan"

Jika,sekali lagi,jika kita mau,dalam sebuah hubungan bisa menjadi inkubator pertumbuhan dan penyembuhan.termasuk jika sebuah pernikahan harus berakhir dengan sebuah perceraian!.Jika terpaksa harus pergi dari sebuah hubungan,jangan pergi tanpa ada hikmah dibaliknya.Dan,apabila memilih untuk bangkit dan bertahan...misal,tidak suka dengan sifat pasangan yang suka men'judge',perlu Anda akui bahwa Anda turut andil membiarkan hal itu terjadi! Dan jangan pula akhiri hubungan dengan rasa sakit dan putus asa.Sebab jika bisa lepas dari hubungan seperti itu,Anda dan pasangan bisa 'keep growing'.Tak ada gunanya hidup dalam 'spirit' dan 'memori' yang telah mati.Jika memutuskan tetap bersama-sama,Anda berdua harus tetap 'hidup' dalam perkawinan.

-Dr.Robin L Smith-

"Aku bukan seorang jenius,tapi aku percaya pada kekuatan ambisi.Kalau memang menginginkannya,melangkahlah,dan kau akan tahu bahwa satu langkah itu akan membawamu berlari menuju apa yang kau dambakan"

-femina-

From Chicken Soup for the Soul: Find Your Happiness

A Real Turnaround

By Lisa McManus Lange

Chase down your passion like it's the last bus of the night.
~Terri Guillemets

My writing career began ten years ago with my slice-of-life articles published locally and nationally. As a beginning writer, I was happy to be on my way, writing and learning as much as I could. With two little kids underfoot, as well as working full-time, it was a challenge to find time to write, but I managed.

I was soon discovering the power and effect of my words on others, translating to why I was writing; to entertain, inspire, and motivate others. Readers telling me they laughed, cried or were inspired by my personal articles only reinforced these reasons. I discovered WHY I was writing in the first place.
But they didn't know what was really going on behind the typewriter.
I was faced with many challenges, depression being one of them. A series of events had me questioning myself and my abilities, jeopardizing my happiness. I was not a happy mommy, and even though I tried to keep joy in the house, I knew it wasn't the same. I had no spark, and found it difficult to enjoy the everyday little things in life. My writing life stalled, then stopped, and I didn't write much for two years. I lost the passion and reason of why I was writing in the first place, and forgot the joy it gave me and others. And just to compound things, I gained weight -- the most I had weighed in my lifetime.
In short, I was not a happy person.
But slowly I crept out of the darkness, one step at a time, one word a time.
I learned I had to be in control of my own happiness if I was to feel better, be a more engaged mom, and have a happier life.
I started walking, establishing a routine -- or trying to at least. A few years had gone by during these challenging times so my kids had gotten older, and I was able to escape for short periods. I traded early-morning television news on the couch and sipping tea, for running shoes, rain and sometimes snow. I got out there and walked, rain or shine, maybe not every morning, but at least every other morning. It cleared my head, allowed me time to think, gave me fresh air and fortitude, and made me feel invigorated and healthy. I was eating wisely, and the weight started to go. Slowly the walking gave way to a running-kind of thing; I am not a marathoner, and my style of running was, and still is, not attractive. But it worked for me. It put a spring in my step, and gave me energy and spark to get out and do things with my kids -- and enjoy it.
But I was still missing one integral part of myself -- my passion.
I started writing again, and rediscovered how much happiness it gave me. I had started a new job, joined a monthly writing chapter, and was determined to keep up my walking/running routine. Finding balance was sometimes difficult in juggling my family, my job, and my walking/running routine. But I was determined to fit in writing time -- because it made me happy. Early mornings had me pounding the pavement, not only because it was the perfect solitary time to do it, but because that was the only time I could do it. There was no reason why I couldn't also be writing in the early mornings when the world was asleep. Sure I loved to watch the news and have my tea, but that wasn't my passion -- that wasn't what made me truly happy.
The solution? I set the alarm just a bit earlier and either wrote on the alternate mornings when I wasn't walking, or I would squeeze in some writing time after my time outside.
Through all this, I learned that happiness does not take a lot of hard work, but it needs to be worked on -- created and controlled by me. I created my own happiness, and in turn, I have been more involved with my kids, more focused on them when they need me. I had to sacrifice sitting on the couch every morning with my tea and the television news playing, and get out there and do something that would foster my happiness.
It has gone full circle. My own happiness has showed through in my mothering and through my family, my job performance and my attitude towards challenging situations. I again have readers telling me the effect my writing has had on them, with some able to get on with their own writing because of my inspirational/motivational articles. I laugh more, and my kids laugh with their happier mother.
It was up to me to make it happen -- my own happiness. One step at a time -- one word at a time.

And I did.

“If you do things the same way you’ve always done them, you’ll get the
same outcomes you’ve always gotten. In order to change your outcomes,
you’ve got to do things differently.” - Mark Victor Hansen

“One Dad I know uses what I call Post-It® Note therapy on his
children. He leaves sticky Post-It Notes everywhere …in their lunch box,
inside their shoes, on top of their sandwich before he wraps it up. He
once went into his daughter’s room, looking for his hammer, and on the
back of her bedroom door were every Post-It Note he’d ever given her -
over 250 in all with simple messages like ‘Great job’…’I love you’…or
‘You’re special to me.’ Do you think that girl knew, without a doubt, that
her Dad valued her and loved her? “ – Jack Canfield

“When you improve your business, life, relationships, finances and your
health, the whole world improves.” - Mark Victor Hansen

“If you want something new in your life, you have to make space for it. I
mean that psychologically as well as physically. Take a look at your
closet. If you have the kind of closet where you can’t fit another thing in
there, that might be the reason you don’t have more new clothes. If you
want a new man in your life, you’ve got to let go of the one who stopped
dating you five years ago. In other words, you need to complete the past
in order for the present to show up more fully.” – Jack Canfield

“Life, nature and God always answer, ‘Yes,’ to you. What are you
asking for?” - Mark Victor Hansen

“Almost everything we’ll ever do in life that is really powerful, that really
produces a result in our lives, that quantum-leaps us to a new level . . .
requires us to do something uncomfortable. It takes risks to achieve. It’s
often scary. It requires something you didn’t know before or a skill you
didn’t have before. But in the end, it’s worth it. As former Congressman
Ed Forman says, ‘Winners are those people who make a habit of doing
things losers are uncomfortable doing.’ Make today your day to start
that uncomfortable new habit.” – Jack Canfield

“When we accomplish a goal, it instantly loses some of its importance
and we tend to lose interest. When we write down too many goals, there
is plenty to keep our subconscious mind at work.” - Mark Victor Hansen
“When you accomplish a goal, don’t cross it out. Instead, write ‘victory’
next to it and move on to the next one. This way, whenever you have a
bad day, all you have to do is to review your victories to feel good about
yourself.” – Jack Canfield

“Our inner image of ourselves and what we want to accomplish in life
helps to make us what we are meant to be.” - Mark Victor Hansen

“Psychologists tell us we think 50,000 thoughts a day…between 1,000
and 5,000 thoughts in a single hour. Many of those thoughts are about
ourselves and about our performance, about our lovability, our capability
and our significance. So the key is to control those thoughts, making
certain they’re always positive.” – Jack Canfield

“When you have purpose, you don’t have time for negativity.”
- Mark Victor Hansen

“I have a friend, a pastor, who applied with me and 419 other people for
25 seats on a special advisory board. Though I believed she was
infinitely more qualified than me, she wasn’t selected and I was. When I
saw her at her church weeks later, I asked her how she felt about the
decision. While disappointment, self-doubt and defeat would have been
normal reactions to the Board’s decision, my friend said she felt great.
‘How come?’ I asked. She said with a smile, ‘I just figured God had
something better in store for me.’” – Jack Canfield

“Amaze yourself; manifest your full potential.” - Mark Victor Hansen

“The meaning of self-esteem is to feel lovable and capable. As parents,
we must love our children unconditionally and give them a sense of being
nurtured. That’s the lovable part. Then, we must provide structure -
rules, boundaries, daily or weekly household tasks that give them a sense
they are making a contribution. That’s what helps kids grow up feeling
capable.” – Jack Canfield

“Be passionately on purpose about your right livelihood”
- Mark Victor Hansen

“Peter Thigpen, formerly Vice-President at Levi Strauss & Company,
always kept a victory log. In it, he listed his accomplishments
like…Opened up China as a market, Got my teenage son to clean up his
room, Got the Board of Directors to approve the new expansion plan.
Whenever he faced something really daunting, like negotiating a major
bank loan, he would review his Victory Log. You can do the same. In fact,
when you focus on tasks completed successfully, it gives you the
expectancy of success, which can change your entire posture or
approach going forward.” – Jack Canfield

“A self-fulfilling prophecy is that you get what you expect. Why not
create great expectations and the highest vision possible for yourself and
the whole world?” - Mark Victor Hansen

“The greatest deficit in America isn’t the trade deficit. It’s the attention
deficit of our children. The average child gets 14 minutes of attention a
day from each of his parents. So the greatest thing you can give a kid is
time spent listening to him or her.” – Jack Canfield

“The majority of people meet with failure because they lack the
persistence to create new plans to take the place of failed plans.”
- Mark Victor Hansen

“Self-esteem does not mean feeling good all the time. Self-esteem
means loving yourself even when you feel badly…even when you make a
mistake. It means loving yourself even when you’re depressed. It means
that you accept yourself fully.” – Jack Canfield